Baby shower blues

For a decade I’ve I lovingly, and only somewhat jokingly, referred to myself as a professional wedding guest, albeit one that paid to attend the nuptials. For example, last year we attended four weddings in four states. So I’m quite familiar with the bridal shower traditions.

Yet when it comes to baby showers it’s a bit more mysterious. I’ve had what seems like a bazillion friends give birth or get pregnant in the last year, but most have been states away or people through work so I haven’t attended a full-fledged baby shower in a while. I’ve thrown a baby shower in my time, but the child in question is now sadly 7 years old. How she grew so fast I don’t know, because I certainly can’t be 7 years older myself.

So when faced with the prospect of throwing a baby shower for my sister-in-law, which I excitedly volunteered to do the first time I saw her after she told me she was pregnant, I did what any 30-something would do. I logged onto BabyCenter and The Bump for ideas. But what I found surprised me. My jaw dropped and my eyes bulged at the trends. Custom wedding-like invitations. Serious food spreads. Expensive favors and elaborate themes. Renting venues.

What happened to a sweet intimate party at home where the focus isn’t on the locale, but rather getting to dish with the mom-to-be about the nursery, sympathizing over pregnancy symptoms and the impending labor, and cooing over cute outfits and baby gifts?

One woman on BabyCenter’s forums bragged that she threw herself a “low-cost” baby shower and was very happy with the result. The price tag for that low-cost shindig? $,2,000. No, I’m not kidding. And that’s before me getting started about the mom-to-be throwing her own party.

And, yes, I realize I sound a bit crotchety. And, yes, I realize I sound REALLY old. But when did baby showers become mini-weddings?

Now I’ve got anxiety about the baby showers measuring up to the pressure of the online forums when I co-host two showers for my sister-in-law next month. Am I alone in this sentiment? What were the best parts of your baby shower? Any tips you can send my way for a memorable and sweet celebration of the mom-to-be and my soon-to-arrive niece or nephew?

Jennifer Erickson is a Sr. Public Relations Specialist and won’t even entertain the idea of a game that measures the mom-to-be’s baby bump.

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