This is my third pregnancy. I wanted a little girl so bad when I was pregnant the first time and that is what I got! I was actually surprised and had psyched myself up for a boy because that was my “feeling.” I loved the pink and all of the “girly” things. My Rachel was perfect and I could not have been happier with the boy/girl situation.
When I got pregnant the 2nd time I had so many people ask me what I wanted and if I was trying for a boy. First of all, I think that is kind of a dumb question. How exactly do you try for a boy? Anyway, my response often sounded something like this: “I would be thrilled with a boy but I would love for Rachel to have a little sister too.” See, I never had a sister and always wanted one so I really wanted that connection and I had so much fun with the first girl I knew the 2nd would be so much fun. I was content with two girls.
Now, this time around…although I was not “trying” for a boy that was my wish. I really really wanted a boy this time. I actually felt like it was a boy. I was nauseated and sick (which I never experienced in my first two pregnancies…at all), I am carrying this baby differently, and things are just different than my other two. Well, it is a girl. Another girl. I will say that I was disappointed. I really feel like we are done after this baby but I just wanted that Mommy’s boy and a little guy in our house. It’s actually funny. My husband does not have a preference either way. His response was, “What does it matter?” He loves his girls (as do I, don’t get me wrong) but my dreams of having a little boy are just not going to happen – not right now anyway. Likely, not ever unless we change our minds later.
I am actually better now…I am happy that so far my little girl looks healthy and developing well. I am thrilled that my two girls will have a baby sister but I guess God just decided we need a little more drama in our home!
What do you think about the gender issue? Working in the hospital, I have seen people so upset about the gender of their baby that they didn’t want to have anything to do with the baby when it was born. (Please don’t think I am there). I have read several things that talk about people choosing the gender of their babies. I am curious to hear your thoughts about this.
Rikki Hester is a social worker at Texas Health Arlington Memorial Hospital and Mom of two girls (soon to be three!).
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